2019 has been a year of so much joy and so much distress — sometimes occurring at the same time. It has been a year of self-exploration, of career exploration, of beginning new chapters in life, and of closing old chapters. It has been a year of growth.
However, growth will not cease after 2019. In fact, I subscribe to the idea that we should engage in self-reflection to determine things or behaviors that we should attempt to leave in the past.
With that said, here are 8 things to end in 2019:
Stop giving an explanation every time you say “no”.
If there is something that you do not want to do, it isn’t necessary to give an explanation every single time you say “no”. Trust me, I am the worlds worst for this! But truly, there is no point in giving a reason every time we say “no”. We need to learn to not agree to things and simply leave it at that.
Not everything deserves an explanation.
Stop trying to please everyone.
Listen, I have tried to do this my entire life and there is one thing that I have learned: It is not possible to please everyone. All you can do is try to make the best decision you can at the time. And you need to make decisions that will be helpful for you. Stop making choices that are harmful for you simply because they please others.
Stop thinking that you are not good enough.
Trust me, you are more than enough! You were created with purpose and for a reason. We all make mistakes and we all fail, but that does not mean that you are not good enough — that means that you are human.
Stop living in the past.
Guess what? Thinking about the past, or regretting the past, is not going to change it. We cannot change the past; we can only learn from it. And yes, I did semi-quote The Lion King.
Stop worrying about everything.
Has a single second of worry every changed the outcome of anything in your life? I don’t mean constructive worry, where you are making plans for how to do something. I am speaking of the incessant worry that is full of doubt. Has it ever changed anything? I’m guessing the answer to that question is no. At least, it is for me.
Worrying about things will not change them. Worry simply steals your happiness.
Stop fearing change.
Taking a leap can be intimidating, but sometimes change is good! We need change in our lives to see growth.
Stop being afraid to be different.
Can you imagine how boring the world would be if we were all the same? At one point in life I feared being different, but over recent years I have realized that I have no desire to be like everyone else. God created each of us differently, and we should view those differences as a gift rather than a burden.
Stop making excuses.
We make excuses for ourselves when we fail to do something and we may even make excuses for others when they hurt us (my fellow codependents are probably nodding along with that statement right now, ha!). Stop making so many excuses. Admit when you are in the wrong and allow the appropriate people to accept responsibility.
Wishing you the best of luck in 2020!