Read This If You Feel Unhappy With Your Life

An open letter to the single woman on valentine's Day (5)

In everything give thanks. This is what God wants you to do because of Christ Jesus.

– 1 Thessalonians 5:18

Don’t you hate that feeling? You know… the feeling when it seems like everyone has everything you want? That feeling that you don’t have anything you have longed for, or even anything you have prayed for?

Yeah, I’ve been there too.

But guess what? I know the secret to overcoming that feeling. And it’s really simple. Here it is: Stop focusing on what you don’t have and start focusing on what you do have. Oprah Winfrey once said, “If you concentrate on what you don’t have, you will never, ever have enough.” And it is so, so true!

A weapon that the enemy uses against us is comparison. Y’all, comparison is the thief of joy. Do you want to know why? Because there will always be someone better and there will always be newer, better things. Someone will be prettier. Someone will be more glamorous. Someone will have the new iPhone. Someone will have a brand new vehicle. Someone will always appear to be doing better than you. But that same person who got a brand new vehicle — the vehicle that has made you undervalue your own vehicle — may have been envious of your old vehicle. That person may have been working for years to purchase that vehicle.

Or better yet, consider that person who just ran a marathon. You see that they have done this and suddenly you feel jealous that you have not run a marathon. You may begin to engage in negative self-talk like, “That will never be me”. But guess what? That person did not just wake up one day and decide to run a marathon? Nope! They put months, maybe even years, into training.

Friend, we have got to stop looking at everything we do not have and everything we have not achieved. Instead, we have got to focus on what we do have. We need to focus on the things that we should be thankful for. And we should focus on small goals that can help us make great achievements. 

So, how do you begin to change your mindset?

Make a list of reasons you should be thankful.

Seriously add everything you can think of to the list. Do you have a roof over your head? Do you have a warm bed to sleep in? Did you eat today? Did you have clean water?

Consider the smallest things that we take for granted every single day.

Make a list of your accomplishments.

Did you finish that difficult course that you thought you would fail? Did you get a drivers license? Did you finish high school?

Add any and all accomplishments you’ve had! Be your own hype man.

Make a list of dreams.

What do you want out of life? When you envision your life in ten years, what do you see? Do you want to run a marathon? Do you want to have a new vehicle? Do you want to have a dog?

Write down anything you see! And when I say anything, I mean anything. Write down your wildest dreams, even if they seem unachievable at the time. You never know what can happen!

Make a list of SMART goals to achieve your dreams.

Do you want a dream to become reality? You’ve got to set goals! Rachel Hollis said it best when she said, “Hope is not a strategy”. If you want to achieve anything in life, you need a goal. Preferably, a SMART goal.

What is a SMART goal, you ask? Let me explain:

S: Specific

M: Measurable

A: Achievable

R: Realistic

T: Timely

For example: Instead of setting a goal to run a mile, make it more specific. Set a goal to run for 20 minutes 5 times a week. Rather than focusing on the mile, focus on building up your endurance. Plus, if you focus on building up your endurance rather than a specific numerical goal, you set yourself up for more of a confidence boost! If you want to run a mile within a week, but don’t see that happen, you may become discouraged and stop trying. So, make sure you set a goal for encouragement!

I truly hope this helps! Check out my Instagram account and keep me updated on what you are thankful for and the goals that you set for 2020! Let’s make it the best year yet, friend.

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