Cruising down a dark highway, blasting music, and pouring our hearts out about our problems.
That’s how it started.
If there’s one thing in life that I have had to learn the hard way, it’s that we cannot control timing. God has a time for everything, and although we’d like to grab the reigns from Him at times, we know that we cannot. And sometimes, we even feel angry that we cannot take control. We begin to foster the lie in our minds that we could do things better than God can.
I felt that way when it came to romance. I experienced heartbreak after heartbreak, and ultimately, ended up alone. For two years, I was single. And when I say single, I mean that I didn’t even go on dates. For a while that was fine — actually, I enjoyed it! I am a firm believer that you need to spend time alone to learn who you are without someone and that you need to learn how to love yourself. But after nearly two years, being alone started to get real old real fast.
I was lonely. I wanted love. I longed to be someone’s number one.
And in this moment of the story, I’d love to add, “And then I met Christopher”. However, that isn’t quite how our story went.
This photo was taken nearly a year after we had first met. Thank God for change, right?!
For nearly two years, Chris and I were just friends. Rumors flew around that we were something more, but we honestly weren’t.
We spent two years getting to know each other.
We spent two years finding Christ.
We spent two years maturing together.
We spent two years becoming better versions of ourselves.
I truly believe that if Chris and I had begun to date when we first met, the relationship would have died fast. When we first met, I was more concerned about when the next party was than about going on a date. When we first met, Chris wore khakis everyday!
Seriously though, I do believe that God put us together at that specific time because He knew that we both longed for that sort of connection. But I also believe that God kept us from being romantically involved at that time as well because He knew that our relationship would crash and burn if we began it too early.
My point for this entire blog post is that sometimes it’s important to wait and trust in God’s timing, even if it is difficult. Please, take these words to heart:
You will find love.
You will get that job.
You will be happy.
You will find whatever it is that your heart is longing for. However, that does not mean that the journey will be easy or that you will receive what you want when you want. More often than not, we wait for a while for the things that we want. But it’s important to keep in mind: Anything worth having is not going to be easy. It may be an uphill battle, but the important thing to remember is that you will make it to the top of that mountain!
Stay positive, sweet friends. And even when it is difficult, trust in God’s timing.