“You don’t choose your family. They are God’s gift to you, as you are to them.”
Family is a topic that I never written about, and while there are several reasons for that, the biggest is that I understand that not everyone has a good relationship with their family. I understand that reading a blog post about the importance of family could be harmful to the people who do not find positive emotions regarding their family, or who may not have spoken to their family in years.
It is because of this that I want to share a few things:
- Your family does not have to be blood-related. Your family are the people who love you unconditionally and support you. They are the people who make you feel at
- As Tolstoy said, “Happy families are all alike; every unhappy family is unhappy in its own way.” Everyone on this planet has family drama. And if someone says they never have drama in their family, they’re either lying to you or to themselves.
- Your family does not have to be perfect. Trust me. Don’t believe lies in photos on Facebook and Instagram – no one’s family is picture perfect all the time.
With that said, I want to share a story about my family in particular. There has been drama in my family for as long as I can remember. It all began when I was too young to understand any of it. When I became a teenager, I had my heart set on fixing the family problems; I was going to be the person who brought everyone back together. And now that I am an adult, I have realized that people who want to be in your life will be. I also realized that you don’t need people in your life who are going to make you feel less than, and yep, that goes for blood-related family as well.
We all have that judgmental aunt who can make us question our major, but that is not what I am referencing. I am referencing the family member(s) – or people in general — who make you feel worthless. I am referencing the people who make you feel like you aren’t good enough to be a part of that family or to be their friend.
This is something that I have struggled with for years. I didn’t feel good enough and I have often felt like an outcast with some members of my family, but I continuously wanted to claw my way back in. I thought that by bringing my family back together, I would begin to feel whole. I would feel worthy.
However, over the past couple of years, I have realized that you don’t need certain people in your life to make you worthy.
If you gain nothing else from this blog, please commit this phrase to memory: You are worthy.
God has called you worthy from the moment you entered this world, and there is nothing that anyone else on this earth can do or say to change that. Friends, you are a child of God. You are a child of the Creator of the Universe. How amazing is that? How humbling is it to consider that God created you perfectly in His image?
I’ve often heard people say the phrase, “You can love them from a distance”. And honestly, that rings true for me. You should always love, but that does not mean those people are good for you. Sometimes you have to create some distance. You need to find people who make you feel loved and who make you value yourself. You need good people in your life because that is what you deserve, my sweet friend. God didn’t bring you into this world for you to be miserable all the time. He brought you into this world to laugh and love. Yes, there will be hardships, but life is so much better during difficult times when you have the right people around you.
You need people who make you feel worthy.
You need people who make you feel valued.
You need people who appreciate you.
My point is that if you have someone, blood-related or not, who is pulling you down in your life, walk away; you can love them from a distance.
If someone makes you feel like you don’t belong, walk away.
If someone makes you doubt yourself, walk away.
If someone makes you work hard for their love, walk away.
God has called you loved. He has called you worthy. He sent His one and only Son to die for you. Yes, you. He wants you to live a full, happy life. So, don’t you dare waste time letting people drag you down. Go out there and be the best version of yourself that you can be! Move forward with your life, and leave the people who make you feel like you aren’t good enough in the past.
Oh, but most importantly, forgive them. Don’t only walk away. When you decide to move on from the people who hurt you and make you feel less than, forgive them even if it is only in your heart. Holding onto anger is like poison. You’re only hurting yourself. Find the will to forgive, and I promise that your life will be so much better.
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